2012年11月9日星期五
The Pro's and Con's of Parenting a Child in Your Golden Years
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As an older parent I relax more, and I don't Borse Louis Vuitton stress out as easily, and I don't get anxious over every little incident. When I was 26, my fourth child was born. He was born with a cyst on his brain, so by the time we figured it out, and got him properly diagnosed, and had brain surgery to attempt to correct it, he was permanently brain damaged. Ultimately, this lead to my ability to reach deeper, and gain more patience. Patience is a quality that a parent of a handicapped child must develop, if she is going to be able to cope at all. So, by the time I became an older parent I had "extra" coping skills, and "extra" patience. I believe my younger children have a much calmer, better, and wiser parent than my older children had. You might even say I am a completely different person from the one that the older children knew. 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